About Us

Meet Ty and Roxanne

Ty

I am passionate about supporting healing, learning and growth of women, men, couples and those with special needs through conscious sensuality experiences, and intimacy coaching.

My passion is borne out of a lifetime experiencing wounding of my masculine essence from my relationship with women. Over the years, my experiences have had me develop profound empathy and compassion for the feminine. I now have a mission to guide and support women to heal from their place of pain through pleasure. Coaching men and women contributes to this cause, as does taking an inclusive approach for people of all needs.

I first realised I had a gift supporting women’s healing when I participated in numerous training programs that developed my deep and conscious understanding of the links between pleasure; and, healing, learning and growth. This training affirmed my understanding and intuition.

I am now intimately aware that women too have deep feminine wounds from their relationship to men. These wounds are supported to heal through my offerings in conscious sensuality.

Roxy

I am passionate about inviting people of all abilities and gender expression to explore the remembrance of their body. Connecting pleasure to healing and expansion through ritual, energetic healing and sensuality practices is what I love to support. I enjoy embodying dark and light feminine archetypes to guide people on their journey to intimacy by shifting shame, suppression and supporting trauma releases.

Through my personal growth and path to understanding self-love and connecting to my sexuality and self-worth, I have been guided to practices from a wide range of energy healing modalities. I am trained in Reki, Pranic Healing and Bowen Therapy.

I first realised I had this gift and interest when I started working with people in drug and alcohol recovery. Seeing the joy in their faces when I had a positive influence I will forever remember.

Ty’s story…

This is how I came to support women’s healing through conscious sensuality!

There I was, lying in a hospital bed for 18-days for an infection in my neck caused from intense emotional trauma in my tumultuous marriage. The surgeon told me to “be patient with my recovery as the infection was near life-threatening”. I’d been sent by ambulance to three different hospitals before being sent to Melbourne to be operated on.

I’d been married for 20-years and thought everything was going amazing. I had three beautiful children, a stable senior management government job, a beautiful house and played an active leadership role in my local community. I was a high-achiever with multiple degrees and a focus on continual learning and growth. My family unit was everything to me, but I was constantly busy ‘doing’ life and rarely stopped to ‘be’. I thought I was invincible and would never get sick, so played hard and worked hard.

After returning home from the 18-day stay in hospital I was forced to slow-down, take time-off, and really think about my past, present and future. I thought about my mum who died when I was four years of age, and how this trauma has stayed with me as an adult. I thought about the stepmother I had from the age of five and how this compounded the wounding of my masculine essence. I was also sitting in the discomfort of my 20-year marriage that had unexpectedly turned extremely tumultuous in the previous 6-months. We had remained together despite damaging circumstances although there was serious doubt in my mind that things were recoverable.

I was feeling immense grief at how the three most significant women in my life had either abandoned me (unintentionally by my mother), abused me and/or betrayed me. I was bearing significant wounding of my masculine essence that had manifested over the years in various ways, including: a need to control situations, fear of failure, unnecessary guilt and shame, sexual dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, personalising things, not feeling worthy of love, people pleasing, unable to say no, seeking external validation, difficulty connecting with my emotions and emotional expression, feeling disconnected from my body with an unregulated nervous system, hiding for fear of being seen, unable to trust my intuition and not knowing my authentic self.

I thought about my sickness, my marriage of 20-years and how all I wanted was a stable loving family unit. I thought about the future and what it could look like; whether I could continue with the marriage. And then I had a thought – “I nearly died becoming sick from the current circumstances – things must change”. I realized that I had become a high achiever to fit in with what society had wanted. In my job and home life I was dedicated to sustainability and environmental conservation. I was starting to realise that continuing in the marriage and maintaining my ‘high-achiever’ role wasn’t me. The thought of leaving my marriage and breaking up the family unit however felt excruciating.

I didn’t know what I was going to do but at that point I knew I needed to end the marriage, which I did. I re-partnered shortly after and travelled to Europe to see my daughter on exchange. Some six months after this I realised I was becoming increasingly apathetic towards my stable job of 20-years. I took all my long service leave to consider my future, and within a month I had resigned, with no plan.

I started coaching men experiencing grief and trauma associated with divorce and separation. This helped my healing process, but I knew there was something missing. I started on a journey of spirituality and self-help as I knew there was more to discover. I started a life coaching course and received coaching in sexual mastery and masculine empowerment. I was still incredibly dysregulated emotionally. After two and a half years I separated from that partner.

Shortly after I met my current partner who is divinely feminine and we have great polarity. Our open connection has supported me to explore more about myself, including my sexuality and spirituality. I also realized that the women I had been connecting with sexually were having profound emotional shifts and healing experiences.

I recently attended a training program in conscious sexuality, and this is where I connected more fully with my authentic self and my path. I felt freedom to explore my desires and step into my authentic self. It was from this training experience and the recent feedback I’d received from multiple women that I knew I had a gift to share.

My gift is curating conscious and safe sensuality experiences so that women can get out of their heads and into their bodies; take a break from constantly giving and surrender; explore their potential for pleasure and expansion; be in their pleasure and experience emotional regulation. I feel a passion to transmit healing energy to the feminine in a meditative state. I feel a strong desire to give to the feminine as my masculine energy had been impacted by women who I feel had been wounded by the masculine over many years.

I just knew I was meant to continue the expansion of my sensuality and spirituality to create deep intimate healing experiences for women. My passion is borne out of a lifetime experiencing masculine wounding that had me develop profound empathy and compassion for the feminine. I now have a mission to guide and support women to heal from their place of pain through pleasure. Coaching men and women in intimacy contributes to this cause, as does taking an inclusive approach for people of all needs.

Although I continue to receive great feedback on my offerings, I am committed to continuous improvement and learning by attending workshops and training in tantra, conscious sexuality, embodiment, spirituality and sexological bodywork. I am currently training to be a sexologist to develop a deeper understanding of the principles and practices of this work.

This is why I am passionate about supporting the healing, learning and growth of women, men, couples, and those with special needs through conscious sensuality experiences and intimacy coaching. Pleasure Heals makes this a reality.

At Pleasure Heals we provide conscious sensuality experiences for men, women and couples, and people with special needs.

Roxy’s story…

This is how I came to inviting people of all abilities and gender expression to explore the remembrance of their body!

I remember the moment I left my body - a profound disconnect from myself, and a deep suppression of my sexuality.

I had struggled as a child to understand the feeling of loss and grief I felt when at age four my parents split, and my beautiful dad was no longer in my life. My mother re partnered quickly after, and this man was foreign and cold in his approach.

In the ensuing years I sought out a father figure in the one man I thought was safe - my grandfather. He was charismatic and fun - I adored him.

And then one day he broke that trust and bond. He over-stepped over a line that changed my life course forever. In that moment I felt the belief that "all men will betray and abandon me" embed itself in my psyche - no man would respect my body or boundaries.

I told myself to "expect abandonment always". I constantly sought approval and validation from others and a deep longing for all versions of myself to be accepted and loved.

The void within myself kept me from forming deep connections with everyone in my life - family, sisterhood, and all men in my life. I had no sense of self or worth. The damaging experience with my grandfather kept validating my core belief. Throughout my life love came to me in toxic ways.

My healing journey began in my early 20’s working in drug and alcohol recovery. A holistic work place of safe, conscious men and women that had healthy boundaries. Working with people in their most vulnerable raw state was awe-inspiring for me. People who had experienced trauma and suffering in all its forms.

In doing this work I could feel the healing exchange that holding space and witnessing someone’s pain with love and respect could offer. This was my introduction to energy healing medicine and started a long journey of self-love and discovery.

Over 20-years later, I now have four children and am separated from their father. I met my beautiful partner in 2001 and this fast-tracked my healing. We have a soul connection like no other - my first experience of the divine Masculine. His patience and commitment to moving forward at the pace of trust unlocked dark spaces within me.

Pleasure Heals allows me to weave my passion for conscious sensuality and sexuality experiences into my offerings for people of all abilities and gender expression.